How many times have we asked ourselves this question? I guess we don’t really keep track of such numbers.But you know that you have asked this to yourself countless times.And you see all these films and TV shows that constantly reiterate that you should not be afraid to be what you are, embrace who you are and be proud of it.I must say i cant agree more on this. But it makes you wonder though.
How do u define yourself? How do u know who you are?
Its definitely not a perfectly established concept. I mean today you are not what you were ten years back and by all probabilities you are not going to be what you are today ten years down the line.So who are you? What defines you? I am not trying to answer this question. No way . I am as muddled as a s/w engineer trying to solve a code that was written by a guy 10 years ago with variables like “will-my-code-work”.
We start by being clones of our parents thinking like them,believing what they believe in, until we are no longer pampered and thrown out of laps and told to think for ourselves. Then we are suddenly out there in the world trying to figure out what we want, who we are,with very little success i might add.Well having said that certain things do define you .Like say your tastes ,your likes and dislikes. I mean that’s genuine unless you are trying to impress the guy/gal u like saying you are a die hard fan of mandolin srinivas when u don’t even know that a mandolin is a stringed instrument.!!! So yeah your preferences define you.
And maybe the most important of all . Your choices.
I quote Rowling here “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities”
And when you think about it , it makes a lot of sense.At every stage of life you make choices. Think about the time you made a choice to give the one final lollipop you had to your best friend in LKG. Think about the times in school when u stood up to your friends and fought for them and made a zillion enemies. Think about the times when you chose friends and stuck with them through thick and thin. Think about all the choices that you have made because you thought people were more important, relationships were more important.All those moments define you. The one tiny moment in the traffic signal when u are torn between paying the skinny lady with an undernourished kid a dime or just shooing her away defines you.Whether u end up paying her or not,it defines a small quality about you.
Making choices is the most difficult thing simply because its always a multiple choice question with the option d being “thousand other things which we cannot accommodate in that brain of yours”.And the answer key never has a right or a wrong.You grow with your choices. Good or bad. Of course we make poor choices ,poor decisions ,pathetic decisions that when you think back you wonder how on god’s name you made that one. But you did and you learnt from it. That’s you.
At every point in our life right from everyday decisions to life altering ones we are all at life’s crossroads trying hard to make a decision. To make a choice. The reason it maybe so hard to make a choice is because every choice is YOU.Defines you.It screams out aloud to the world about the person that you are. And figuring out who you are is probably the largest and biggest conundrum life ever imposed on us.Will we ever be able to figure it out? should we figure it out? Well i don’t think so cause everyone of your choices is an answer in itself, a smaller piece of a larger jigsaw.And you play the jigsaw for as long as you live and boy its one hell of a game!!!
btw on a totally related note.. here is another way to define you. Your choice to make a difference.